Don’t let things get in your way 

We all have our ups and downs, we all share the moments that make us feel as if we’re the only ones feeling this way. But you are not feeling it alone.

Everyone has baggage and everyone has those days where it feels a little heavier than it did before, it’s normal and there are ways to get passed it.

I understand that everyone has different things going on, and I am not the perfect spoke person but I have found that little things can help me through bad days.


I left university not too long ago and moving home and leaving some amazing people put me in a very weird place, as I think it does for a lot of people.

The situation made me feel things I hadn’t experienced before but I have little tricks that help bring me up. I hope this post can help others who are maybe feeling a little less than themselves lately.

  • Keep Yourself Busy 

I found that I was feeling my worst when I was just working and heading home. I would find myself in my room and end up feeling, to be quite honest like crap. I would sit upstairs watching Netflix, which not only isolated me but began to make me feel very tired and lethargic, which obviously lead me to not exactly liking the way I was.

I think it is the same for a lot of people, when your are alone it is an excuse to start thinking about things and start looking back with a shall we say, a less than positive outlook. I would think about university and look back at what I had, but rather than look back and remember, I was looking back and wishing I was there and not here. This is not the way to look at your memories, you should look back and smile.

I found that as soon as I began planning things, after work or even for the weekend meant I had things to look forward to and get me out of habit. I began to push myself to arrange things and ensure I was enjoying myself. For me, friends make me the happiest, therefore I took that knowledge and put it into practice. I arranged a plan to see my friends who are furthest away to meet in the summer and sort little plans with the friends who are close. I even took up some hobbies and have started helping other people out!

I love drama and I have started helping out some student with student films and modelling for photography and make up students. It’s really different, breaks up my day and I actually really enjoy it!

Find things you enjoy, whether its something as simple as watching TV with your family or heading out to dinner with friends, you’d be surprised the difference it makes!

  • Stop Comparing Yourself To Others! 

I know it is so much easier said than done, and I can say I am always doing this even when I know I shouldn’t!

It is so easy to start looking at other people and wonder why you are not doing as well and it is mainly on social media! I find myself looking at pages of people I know and even that I don’t and have the thought they are doing better than me and maybe I should be doing something different. DON’T.

Nothing is what is seems online and everyone has things going on that you may not see! It is very easy to push your problems onto other things and make yourself feel as if you are not as good as someone else, but they are probably thinking the exact same thing looking at someone else, or even YOU!

Everyone has things they don’t like or feel like they cannot do something, but comparing yourself to others is never going to help. Look at yourself and think what you could do to improve the way you feel, as everyone is different and you shouldn’t try to be something or someone you’re not.

  • Try Not To Second Guess Yourself 

Again, this is something very easy to say and much harder to do, but it can make a huge difference.

I am not saying that you will never second guess your choices because this is human nature! Also of course you will second guess sometimes as not all choices will be good ones but that happens to everyone, we all make mistakes.

What I mean is,  stick with your decisions, if you think its right then go for it. Yes it may come back to bite you in the ass but you will have committed to something and imagine all the time you could save not worrying about what to do next. We all have responsibilities but try and take each day as it comes and the choices you make at that time.

I always worry about how my choices effect people, which isn’t a bad thing but when I start making decisions for others that’s when it goes down hill. Make choices for yourself and if you think its the right thing, then stick with it! Don’t change who you are just because you are worried that people won’t like you, if  they accept you then they will stay by your side.

  • Try The Simple Things 

There are a few little tricks that are so simple but can sometimes really help if you are stuck in a rut!

Simplicity is key here, so these things may seem obvious but they can be really beneficially:

Talk to people! It is so simple and can become really easy. I am one of those people who would much rather keep things to myself, as for some reason I don’t want to be seen as a drama queen or putting my problems on other people, but that is really not the case! I think a lot of people feel this way, but you need to remember that is what friends and family are for! I know if my friend or anyone was feeling like they needed to talk I would want them to come to me, so don’t be afraid and definitely don’t be embarrassed! I think it could surprise you how many people turn around and say they have felt the same way!

Write things down. Now this may sound bizarre but it is a really good way to help with worries. I am the type of person to have the most outrageous worries and the more I think about them the worse my anxiety gets, even if they make absolutely no sense! I found that writing down the worries I had and actually seeing them physically in front of me, I was able to rationalize how silly some of them were. I made a list and read through them, and having the worries on paper made them less intense and I actually ended up laughing at some!

Don’t be ashamed! This is so common for people to keep things to themselves and gets to a point where its a lot harder to do something about it. Luckily I have never gone that far, because I did something about it. I know it is so much easier said than done, and people are all different, but coming to terms with it makes it an easier thing to conquer. When you are able to except it and not be ashamed of the way you and so many people feel, you can begin to make a positive change. I know it is not as simple for some people, but as a starting point it could make an impact on your outlook.

 

The last thing and probably the post important! Is to surround yourself with things that make you happy!

Whether this be friends, family, food anything! The more your place your self in positive situations and surround your self you will begin to draw off this! For me it comes from being around friends and arranging things to do, I am able to bounce off them and enjoy living in the moment!

 

Hope this helps anyone who is feeling a little down! As I said everyone is different but I found these routes really help and got me feeling a little more like myself 🙂

 

BeautyBrown x

International women’s day!!

As it was international women’s day yesterday I thought what a perfect opportunity it would be to write a blog post on the women that inspire me and how important it is for women to be the backbone of all women.

I am very lucky to have an amazing support group of women in my life, from my Mum to my best friends. It is so important for women today to have a strong support from other women, to empower one another!

Support in women and young girls is something that I am really passionate about and women who inspire one another are the ones I look up too and respect so much.

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This is one of my favourite quotes, as it is so true! We are brought up in a world where women are taught to see each other as competitors but that really should not be the case. Women should be taught to stand together, if we did imagine the things each other could do.

The women in my life have always supported one another, and been there through the up’s and down’s through one another’s lives.

Now I am not saying that I don’t fight, have disagreements even say things I wish I hadn’t, but the point is that overall we support each other as women, different opinions and all. I mean, I am still human and coming from a generation where everything seems like a competition (especially on social media) I have thought things or even said things about other girls that maybe I shouldn’t have, I think we all do. What I mean is women need to stop seeing other women as enemies and start seeing each other as equal allies.

I don’t want to shove ideas and thoughts onto others, but women have fort for a long time to have the things we do today even if we still have some way to go. But one thing I don’t think they fought for was women tearing each other down. Yes we get jealous and yes we make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean we cannot support one another.

This is where having the women in our lives becomes so important.

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You can achieve anything but think of what you could achieve with a strong support system propelling you forward. Women still face a lot of adversity, even now in 2017. I am not saying that we are the only ones with problems, I am a strong believer in equality for men and women, but from a woman’s point of view I can have an opinion on female support. That is the reason for this post.

We  all have people that we look up to and inspire us and for my that is my mum and my friends.

My mum has been an amazing female figure to look towards, she is positive, smart and so passionate about everything she does. As a woman she is the perfect example of someone who goes out of her way to support her daughters and female friends. She isn’t someone to criticise other women, but is a listening ear and a smile with advice when needed.  Yes she may not always get it right, but she empowers me to do what I want in life and lets nothing get in my way especially not my gender.

Female friends are some of the best friends that a girl can have through her life and create one of the strongest bonds throughout the years! My girlfriends inspire me everyday, with their own lives and the support the bring to mine. Yes, it is not all pillow fights and ice cream, but it is a helping hand and plenty of laughter, even if sometimes that laughter can become screams. Girls do fight and have disagreements of course but ultimately these arguments can bring you closer and create a genuine relationship that becomes something to cherish. Even if we don’t always agree with each others decisions and mistakes, we don’t bash each other down for them, we help that person grow from it.

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It is so important that women stand together and teach the younger generation of girls today that we are all each others sisters, mothers and best friends (no matter how cheesy that sounds). We should all see each other as queens and nothing less, no woman is better than another and if you think you are why aren’t you helping the other to better themselves? I love international women’s day, because we finally see how women should always be treating and supporting each other.

Stand together queens and make everyday International Women’s Day.

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Cabana Brazilian street food!  

On Tuesday 21st of February, me alongside the Southampton bloggers were invited to the new Cabana restaurant in Watermark Southampton. Cabana is a twist on Brazilian street food from all over the country, 


It was a really special evening, meeting the owners and the creative team, who really made the night. 

We started with a cocktail master class, where we got the chance to have a go at making a traditional Brazilian cocktail. They first of all showed us how to make the perfect one and then we all had a go to see who was the best mixologist! 




I’ll tell you now, cocktail making is harder than you may think! (Especially the shaking part!) 

I loved that the staff that helped us were so enthusiastic and really gave us an experience! They helped us and laughed and really made it a lot of fun! 

The cocktail was actually really tasty and they were even generous to give the best cocktail a £10 voucher! 

We then moved back over to try some of the amazing food! 


The owners sat down with us to enjoy the food and explained everything that we were eating. They explained where the food was from, what it was and the Brazilian style of food and eating! They were so helpful and informative and it just made the night X100 better! It was so nice to experience food that is authentic and not justify mass produced! They have put so much effort into creating the perfect Brazilian restaurant that really is one of a kind! 

The food was just amazing! I have never been a massive fan of spicy food but in all honesty I loved everything I tried! The food may have been spicy but the flavour was so amazing the spice only added to the great taste! 

I have to say this restaurant has now become one of my favourites, I cannot wait to head back and try even more of the food. They gave us a wonderful golden bag full of some of the sauces to we can make some of the food along with a recipe book! I’m very excited to give it ago myself but I doubt it will be as good as that food I tried! 

I cannot recommend this place more! The thought and effort along with the amazing food could not be more perfect and I would 100% say to check it out! So if you are near any of these fabulous Cabana restaurant go on in and I guarantee you will have just a brilliant night as we did! 

Thank you so much Cabana for a great and memorable evening! 

Billy Elliot! @Mayflower Southampton 


Yay! Billy Elliot! Go Billy go! 

I have wanted to see this musical forever! As you know by now I am a massive musical geek, I just can’t get enough! I’ve been in them, gone to see them and now I’m writing about them!

Billy Elliot has been one of my must see’s for a long time and I finally had the chance to go with the Southampton Bloggers! 

 After seeing the film when I was younger I was so excited to see the way they expressed this on stage! (Which was spot on by the way) 


Omg omg omg is all I can say right now! I saw the show last night and I cannot get out of my head how amazing it was! 

This has got to be one of the best shows I have seen, for me it is now one of my favourites! I cannot stress how much you should see this show if  you can, it was incredible! 

Let’s start with the song and dance numbers…


The songs are still in my head! They were really fun and thy created this amazing atmosphere with the ensemble. 

As a lot of the cast were young I was so impressed with the way they could move and their pure talent on stage! From young to old on that stage last night was perfection! They way they created transitions on stage from scenes and songs was honestly beautiful! One of my favourite moment was the grandmas song about her husband. As she sung there was a group of male dancers that moved across the stage from one side to the other. The moments they created were stunning and created this real moment on the stage. Truly stunning. 


Now time for the real talent! This young lad who played Billy last night was breathtaking! The talent of this young lad was astonishing I honestly couldn’t believe it! It was only his third venue and I could not believe my eyes! Seriously watch out for this one as that is a talent that is going so many places! 

Not only was he adorable when we acted but the skill of his dancing was gorgeous! He really showed off his skills in a wonderful scene where him and his older self danced together, it gave my goose bumps and I 100% cried! ( as I did through  most of the show!) 

They danced together in such sync it really seemed like the same person! The skill and practice they had put into this beautiful scene was so beautiful! 

All I can say is I wish I was a ballet dancer and I’m 100% signing up my future kids for lessons! 

The thing about this show is that it really strikes a cord with the audience! I laughed and cried and didn’t want the how to end! If you ask me 3 hours was not long enough! The show rounded up with a standing ovation from the audience, which was the least they deserved! I just wish I had roses to throw! I will be thinking about this show for a long time! 

There was really something for everyone in this show! The crude nature and comedy was something I loved and they had the perfect amount! 

I cannot praise this show enough! The cast and crew should be immensely proud as they created somethin truly magical I cannot wait to watch again! 

Go and see this if you can! I had such an amazing time thank you so much to the Mayflower Southampton! 

What’s the all hype?! Hismile teeth whitening 

So the Instagram sensation hismile is what everyone is talking about so I thought I would give it ago! 


So the package came and I must say my first impressions were very good! The box was presented lovely and everything was so neat and ready to use! 


It came with a clear instiction booklet that explained really well everything that you needed to do for your home whitening. 

When opening the box I looked straight at the booklet just to see if it really was as easy as everyone has been saying and this is what it looked like…


Literally a step by step guide with pictures, which is super helpful as I’m defiantly a picture person! Not only did it tell you how to use the product but at the bottom it gives you tips for the best results. 

I don’t know why but from seeing pictures and video I thought the mouth guard you placed in your mouth was a hard plastic, but it isn’t its actually a soft silicone. This made it so much easier to have in my mouth and a lot more comfy! 

So I attached the mouth guard to the LED lamp,applied a quarter of the syringe to the top and bottom sections and popped it in my mouth. 

I had a little wiggly around to make sure the gel was all on my teeth, bit down  (as one of the tips suggested) and turned on the light. The one thing I loved about the light is is times ten minutes for you at automatically turns itself off! This meant I could get some other stuff done, like tidying my room or finishing my makeup off. 


It made everything so easy and I could really tell a difference even after the first use! It says to use it consecutively for the best results and I’ve only used one gel so far and I think it’s working really well! 

It suggested staying away from staining foods and drinks straight before and after use just to make it take a little better. 

The only small issue I had was that my jaw did ache a little bit I was clamping down the whole time, which I’m sure you don’t have to do! 

My overall option after a few goes, is that the product is really making a difference. I don’t know how long this will last as I am still using it but at the moment I am a very happy bunny 🙂 


The Real Greek, Southampton 😍

Tonight I headed to The Real Greek Southampton with the Sotonbloggers! 

The Real Greek is based in the new Watermark in Southampton and I have to say it was INCREDIBLE

I have never had Greek food before as I am, I have to say a picky eater but to get I pushed the boundaries! We got to try such a variety of dishes this evening and I really enjoyed every one, got me wanting to try even more new cuisines!


Before we decided what we wanted to eat we also got to have some of there delicious cocktails! I decided to have a Bellini and it was so tasty! The bar looked really fancy and the options for the cocktails all seemed really nice and were actually set at a really responsible price. 


They were presented so well and came to us super quick! The cocktails we had were so yummy and I could have definitely had more! 

Then we moved onto food and the way it’s done is so good! It is almost presented like tapas, lots of little dishes and it meant we got to try lots of new things! 


They brought out all the dishes in these lovely trays which meant we could share out all the differnt foods and try some of the delicious Greek cuisine. When looking at the size of the dishes, you would only need about 2 or 3 too fill yourself up and at the prices it would be a pretty cheap night! The dishes were about £5 to £6 pound so a couple would be your average price for an entire meal, and they really do fill you up! I was stuffed! 

Now onto the thing I was especially please with this evening and it was the service! If you not only want to try great food but want to receive excellent customer service this is the place to go! 

Our waitress was so attentive really making sure we had everything we needed and were enjoying our food. As we were all pretty new to trying Greek food she gave us some great recommendations and wanted to give us the real Greek food experience!

After our mains the waitress offered some desserts and gave us her recommendations 


We let her choice for us and she brought out the most delicious options! 

My favourite was the chocolate moose cake, it was so rich and chocolatey I was in heaven!! 

She also brought us out a toffee cheesecake, apple and cinnamon pie and a Greek Walnut yogurt. I really liked giving these ago and having the opportunity to try these lush desserts! 

I couldn’t of been happier with the atmosphere, service and the restaurants appearance! If you are looking for brilliant food and service I would highly recommend heading to The Real Greek Southampton! 

Hope you enjoy this read! 🙂 

Bali Belly! First Travel Blog!

Bali Belly! First Travel Blog!

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In September I was lucky enough to travel in and around Bali, Indonesia with one of my closet friends and it was one of the best experiences of my life!

I have been quite a few places in my life and am very lucky to have done so, varying from Spain to America to Morocco. All of these places I have been have been amazing but I have never really had the chance to properly travel and explore a country, which is something I have always wanted to do!

Now I didn’t know the half of what to do when it came to actually travelling round somewhere, especially on my own! So first of all, because I didn’t really fancy going alone as I the thought was a little daunting to me, I decided to go with my friend from university who was also looking to travel. Secondly, we decided to go with a company with an organised tour, so we could be safe and have everything organised and sorted for us! Which I think is an excellent idea for first time travellers!

Now to start I have to say an organised tour was the best choice we made! We met the most amazing group of people and it added so much to the experience for me!

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There was such a variety of people from different places! New York, Canada, Boston, China and various places across the UK, it was just so much fun having the chance to meet these genuinely wonderful people!

I loved being apart of a tour, now I know it isn’t for everyone, but we didn’t have to worry about anything as it was all prearranged! We could just turn up and see and experience this gorgeous place without a care in the world, and the experiences we got were incredible!

Pictures:

  • Following wild dolphins
  • learning how to surf from local surf guru’s
  • Temples
  • Monkey Forest, feeding wild monkeys
  • Travelling to the top of a active volcano at 3am to watch the sun rise over Bali

These were some of my favourite experiences over the trip and memories I will never forget!

Dolphin’s

This boat trip was honestly incredible (as I am going to say about pretty much everything). We got on boats and headed out with the locals to follow wild dolphins in the sea. Can I also mention now, this is much a better way to see them rather than seeing them in captivity, as you really see them living the way they SHOULD be living! We followed the dolphins around and because of the clear waters, when they weren’t popping up we could see them swimming below. We cold sit on the polls either side of the boats for a better view and we really got up close to these beautiful families of  dolphins. It is something I never thought I would be able to experience and it is something I will never forget!

Surfing

The surfing lesson was so much fun! I had never done it before and doing it in the warm Balinese sea made it even better. We were taught everything we needed to know and the guys on the beach teaching us were so helpful and pretty much got us all up and surfing. I fell off so many times when I started but with persistence I mange to stand up quite a bit! We enjoyed this so much that when the tour was over, the few of us staying for a couple of extra days, heading back with our tour leader who hung out with us for a while to have another go! I can safely say I am a surf girl! Maybe a bit different if I try it in the freezing waters if England!

Temples 

As we were part of the tour we travelled round so easily and it gave us a brilliant chance to see all the wonderful and beautiful temples of Bali! We went to so many and learnt so much about the culture, not only this but having a tour guide meant we were able to ask questions and he could tell us facts. I was so interesting finding out about the culture of this beautiful island.

Monkey forest 

The monkey forest was so cool! I mean around Bali there are quite a lot of monkeys anyway, but in this forest there were hundreds and you could feed them and have pictures with them. It was much nicer seeing them be able to run around an live in such a beautiful forest. I was a little scared at first as when you first walk in they are everywhere and I mean everywhere and when you have food they just jump all over you!

Volcano trek 

This was INCREDIBLE! This is something I would never have done if I wasn’t on the tour. We had the chance to trek up an active volcano in the early hours of the morning to watch the sunset come up and it was so beautiful. I have to admit though, it was such hard work! We literally had to climb up rocks at one point and be so careful not to fall!

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One night we had the amazing opportunity to stay in the most amazing villa I have ever seen as part of our tour!

It was so beautiful and we got two nights where we had food prepared for us and a fire pits and pints for the evenings! I had a such a lovely time here and the location was beautiful, being able to see so much from the pool! This was my favourite accommodation and would be another massive reason I would recommend a tour to anyone!

Night outs! 

We also got to experience the nights out on Gilli T, which were so much fun! the bars and restaurants so were good and so cheap! One of my favourites was a bar that was completely filled with beer pong tables! This really got everyone in the party mood and the first night really broke the ice!

Before we headed to Gilli T we had one of our first nights out in Kuta at this crazy club called Skygarden, where everyone just let loose!!

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When we moved onto Gilli we had all become a lot closer so the nights out we went on were so much fun! I literally loved my group!

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I have definitely got the travel bug now and me and my friend are already thinking about where to next! We think we want to do a tour again because the experience we had was so much fun and we want to keep going!

Meeting new people and experiencing a new place, what more could you want! Get me out there!

An amazing experience I would recommend to anyone! Can’t wait to go on my next adventure and continue making memories!

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Thank you for an amazing experience I will never forget….