What feminism is to me…

This is my first post of this kind so I hope it’s alright! I want to put it the best way I can, so even though my writing may not be too great I hope to get what I mean across well 🙂

I never knew what feminism was, never thought about it and never really understood it. I think this goes for a lot of people, as there are so many different views and takes on feminism so it can all get a bit confusing! I think this is another reason I don’t want to be called a feminist because there are so many variations and connotations of the word! The thing is, I do believe I am one purely because of the way I view feminism. I just think being called a feminist can become a bit blurred because of everyone’s different takes on the subject. I’m not saying anyone’s view on this is wrong, this is just mine.

I first really began to understand what my thoughts on feminism were when I had to look into it for a university project…

I was placed into a group to create our own theatre company, we had to have an aim and an area of interest. Two of the girls suggest that we become a feminist theatre company as the dynamic of the group would make it very interesting (5 girls and 1 boy) therefore we could make some hard hitting thoughtful theatre. I am all for hard hitting theatre with a purpose but at the time I found the idea quite off putting. My first response, which now I find to be such an ignorant statement was “as long as it’s not all man hating”. If I heard someone say that now I would be the one rolling my eyes.


Luckily the girls I worked with understood where I was coming from because it is a view that so many people have on feminism, I mean I was one of them and it’s because I didn’t understand it. The pieces we began to work on were based about equality for men and women, yes men and women. We looked into subjects which effect both sexes and in some cases yes there is a big difference.

I can see why some people think feminism is all for women but it only seems this way because women are fighting for some notable equalities, such as pay and sexual assault. This doesn’t mean men do not suffer the same discrimination. Like I said for me feminism is equality for both sexes.

Now I’m not the type of person to shove this down peoples throats as it what I think not what others have too (I hope this isn’t too heavy a read). I just think that men and women should have equality, even things simple as a woman not being called a slut for wearing the clothing she likes, or a man being called a wimp for enjoying more so called ‘feminine’ things.

I just think people should be allowed to do what they want, live the way they want to with out so much judgement. Is that so much to want?

I can’t see equality as a bad thing, and I find it so bizarre that the word ‘feminist’ almost seems dirty to some people. Like I said there are many differny types of feminism and people have their own beliefs within it, but overall it does come back to equality in my eyes.

It’s not a bad thing to be a feminist and people shouldn’t feel bad to be one. I think it is a good thing to strive for and eventually I want there to be equality.

I find if quite funny sometimes when people ask me how I can be a feminist.

Now, I think this comes back down to people’s differny views and takes on feminism. I love make up and fashion and I enjoy making myself look and ultimately feel good. Some people see this as a weakness I suppose, because  as a woman I should be empowered and love the way I look…well I do, I mean we all have insecurities but I’m not ashamed of myself. The reason I wear make up and slightly change my appearance is because I enjoy it. I like buying make up and clothes and I do it for no one else but myself. This has nothing to do with me not being empowered in my own skin in actual fact I just simply want to do something I take enjoyment in.


I just think overal there should be mutual respect for men and women because we are all equal and that’s the way it should be. I remember I was criticised once for asking a man to open something for me. Now most of the time I really strive to be independent and ultimately I think I am or at least getting there, but in this case I just needed help from someone and it turned out to be a man. I think this is read into much to much sometimes, we can all help one another and be polite and it does not have to be sexist. I am a feminist but if a man opens a door for me he is being polite not misogynistic.

I hope I haven’t offended anyone,but I just wanted this to be a little insight to myself. I hope it was an enjoyable read and not too heavy!

Keep doing things that make you happy 🙂

Wonderland! 


Last night I was lucky enough to go with the Southampton bloggers to see Wonderland at The Mayflower Theatre! 

This new show has just come to Southampton and explores an older Alice, her daughter and her love interest neighbour falling into wonderland. Initially the story is set in modern day and Alice’s life seems to be going in all the wrong directions. She’s divorced, fired and feeling ultimately lost. 

I am familiar with the classic Disney story of Alice in Wonderland, but this was a new twist on the classic and it took me by surprise! 

Although the story differed from the one I knew it was a great experience and the new story kept me guessing. 

The set and the costumes were my two favourite things about this show, and definitely a reason alone to see this show! 

The stage was just alive with colour and the slickness of the set was really impressive! From the looking glass to the mad hatters tea table, everything was really thought through and brought the stage to life! 

The performers costumes were the perfect suggestion to the animals and a great modern day twist! My favourite had to be the Mad Hatter! Originally played by a man in the film but in this case was a woman, and it worked so well! She was in a big hat, peplum shirt and fab purple leggings! She was so sassy and her voice was just incredible! 

After touring in America, the show has come over to England and is the perfect show to see with the family! Especially over the Easter break! 

The Queen of Hearts (a classic character) was played by Cilla Battersby-Brown, who was a Coronation Street star! She was just fabulous! What a voice and the chatacteristics were spot on for the character. I love subtle traits for characters on stage as it makes each person up there an individual! The Queen of Hearts would have a jam tart every time she was on stage, and would announce herself eating it! It was really funny and a lovely little extra which really added to her character!

We had an excellent evening as always at the Mayflower in Southampton and if you are a big Alice fan I would certainly recommend! The show is in Southampton from 18th to the 22nd April so make sure you grab your tickets soon!!! 

Grace x