What feminism is to me…

This is my first post of this kind so I hope it’s alright! I want to put it the best way I can, so even though my writing may not be too great I hope to get what I mean across well 🙂

I never knew what feminism was, never thought about it and never really understood it. I think this goes for a lot of people, as there are so many different views and takes on feminism so it can all get a bit confusing! I think this is another reason I don’t want to be called a feminist because there are so many variations and connotations of the word! The thing is, I do believe I am one purely because of the way I view feminism. I just think being called a feminist can become a bit blurred because of everyone’s different takes on the subject. I’m not saying anyone’s view on this is wrong, this is just mine.

I first really began to understand what my thoughts on feminism were when I had to look into it for a university project…

I was placed into a group to create our own theatre company, we had to have an aim and an area of interest. Two of the girls suggest that we become a feminist theatre company as the dynamic of the group would make it very interesting (5 girls and 1 boy) therefore we could make some hard hitting thoughtful theatre. I am all for hard hitting theatre with a purpose but at the time I found the idea quite off putting. My first response, which now I find to be such an ignorant statement was “as long as it’s not all man hating”. If I heard someone say that now I would be the one rolling my eyes.


Luckily the girls I worked with understood where I was coming from because it is a view that so many people have on feminism, I mean I was one of them and it’s because I didn’t understand it. The pieces we began to work on were based about equality for men and women, yes men and women. We looked into subjects which effect both sexes and in some cases yes there is a big difference.

I can see why some people think feminism is all for women but it only seems this way because women are fighting for some notable equalities, such as pay and sexual assault. This doesn’t mean men do not suffer the same discrimination. Like I said for me feminism is equality for both sexes.

Now I’m not the type of person to shove this down peoples throats as it what I think not what others have too (I hope this isn’t too heavy a read). I just think that men and women should have equality, even things simple as a woman not being called a slut for wearing the clothing she likes, or a man being called a wimp for enjoying more so called ‘feminine’ things.

I just think people should be allowed to do what they want, live the way they want to with out so much judgement. Is that so much to want?

I can’t see equality as a bad thing, and I find it so bizarre that the word ‘feminist’ almost seems dirty to some people. Like I said there are many differny types of feminism and people have their own beliefs within it, but overall it does come back to equality in my eyes.

It’s not a bad thing to be a feminist and people shouldn’t feel bad to be one. I think it is a good thing to strive for and eventually I want there to be equality.

I find if quite funny sometimes when people ask me how I can be a feminist.

Now, I think this comes back down to people’s differny views and takes on feminism. I love make up and fashion and I enjoy making myself look and ultimately feel good. Some people see this as a weakness I suppose, because  as a woman I should be empowered and love the way I look…well I do, I mean we all have insecurities but I’m not ashamed of myself. The reason I wear make up and slightly change my appearance is because I enjoy it. I like buying make up and clothes and I do it for no one else but myself. This has nothing to do with me not being empowered in my own skin in actual fact I just simply want to do something I take enjoyment in.


I just think overal there should be mutual respect for men and women because we are all equal and that’s the way it should be. I remember I was criticised once for asking a man to open something for me. Now most of the time I really strive to be independent and ultimately I think I am or at least getting there, but in this case I just needed help from someone and it turned out to be a man. I think this is read into much to much sometimes, we can all help one another and be polite and it does not have to be sexist. I am a feminist but if a man opens a door for me he is being polite not misogynistic.

I hope I haven’t offended anyone,but I just wanted this to be a little insight to myself. I hope it was an enjoyable read and not too heavy!

Keep doing things that make you happy 🙂

International women’s day!!

As it was international women’s day yesterday I thought what a perfect opportunity it would be to write a blog post on the women that inspire me and how important it is for women to be the backbone of all women.

I am very lucky to have an amazing support group of women in my life, from my Mum to my best friends. It is so important for women today to have a strong support from other women, to empower one another!

Support in women and young girls is something that I am really passionate about and women who inspire one another are the ones I look up too and respect so much.

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This is one of my favourite quotes, as it is so true! We are brought up in a world where women are taught to see each other as competitors but that really should not be the case. Women should be taught to stand together, if we did imagine the things each other could do.

The women in my life have always supported one another, and been there through the up’s and down’s through one another’s lives.

Now I am not saying that I don’t fight, have disagreements even say things I wish I hadn’t, but the point is that overall we support each other as women, different opinions and all. I mean, I am still human and coming from a generation where everything seems like a competition (especially on social media) I have thought things or even said things about other girls that maybe I shouldn’t have, I think we all do. What I mean is women need to stop seeing other women as enemies and start seeing each other as equal allies.

I don’t want to shove ideas and thoughts onto others, but women have fort for a long time to have the things we do today even if we still have some way to go. But one thing I don’t think they fought for was women tearing each other down. Yes we get jealous and yes we make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean we cannot support one another.

This is where having the women in our lives becomes so important.

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You can achieve anything but think of what you could achieve with a strong support system propelling you forward. Women still face a lot of adversity, even now in 2017. I am not saying that we are the only ones with problems, I am a strong believer in equality for men and women, but from a woman’s point of view I can have an opinion on female support. That is the reason for this post.

We  all have people that we look up to and inspire us and for my that is my mum and my friends.

My mum has been an amazing female figure to look towards, she is positive, smart and so passionate about everything she does. As a woman she is the perfect example of someone who goes out of her way to support her daughters and female friends. She isn’t someone to criticise other women, but is a listening ear and a smile with advice when needed.  Yes she may not always get it right, but she empowers me to do what I want in life and lets nothing get in my way especially not my gender.

Female friends are some of the best friends that a girl can have through her life and create one of the strongest bonds throughout the years! My girlfriends inspire me everyday, with their own lives and the support the bring to mine. Yes, it is not all pillow fights and ice cream, but it is a helping hand and plenty of laughter, even if sometimes that laughter can become screams. Girls do fight and have disagreements of course but ultimately these arguments can bring you closer and create a genuine relationship that becomes something to cherish. Even if we don’t always agree with each others decisions and mistakes, we don’t bash each other down for them, we help that person grow from it.

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It is so important that women stand together and teach the younger generation of girls today that we are all each others sisters, mothers and best friends (no matter how cheesy that sounds). We should all see each other as queens and nothing less, no woman is better than another and if you think you are why aren’t you helping the other to better themselves? I love international women’s day, because we finally see how women should always be treating and supporting each other.

Stand together queens and make everyday International Women’s Day.

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