We all have our ups and downs, we all share the moments that make us feel as if we’re the only ones feeling this way. But you are not feeling it alone.
Everyone has baggage and everyone has those days where it feels a little heavier than it did before, it’s normal and there are ways to get passed it.
I understand that everyone has different things going on, and I am not the perfect spoke person but I have found that little things can help me through bad days.
I left university not too long ago and moving home and leaving some amazing people put me in a very weird place, as I think it does for a lot of people.
The situation made me feel things I hadn’t experienced before but I have little tricks that help bring me up. I hope this post can help others who are maybe feeling a little less than themselves lately.
I found that I was feeling my worst when I was just working and heading home. I would find myself in my room and end up feeling, to be quite honest like crap. I would sit upstairs watching Netflix, which not only isolated me but began to make me feel very tired and lethargic, which obviously lead me to not exactly liking the way I was.
I think it is the same for a lot of people, when your are alone it is an excuse to start thinking about things and start looking back with a shall we say, a less than positive outlook. I would think about university and look back at what I had, but rather than look back and remember, I was looking back and wishing I was there and not here. This is not the way to look at your memories, you should look back and smile.
I found that as soon as I began planning things, after work or even for the weekend meant I had things to look forward to and get me out of habit. I began to push myself to arrange things and ensure I was enjoying myself. For me, friends make me the happiest, therefore I took that knowledge and put it into practice. I arranged a plan to see my friends who are furthest away to meet in the summer and sort little plans with the friends who are close. I even took up some hobbies and have started helping other people out!
I love drama and I have started helping out some student with student films and modelling for photography and make up students. It’s really different, breaks up my day and I actually really enjoy it!
Find things you enjoy, whether its something as simple as watching TV with your family or heading out to dinner with friends, you’d be surprised the difference it makes!
- Stop Comparing Yourself To Others!
I know it is so much easier said than done, and I can say I am always doing this even when I know I shouldn’t!
It is so easy to start looking at other people and wonder why you are not doing as well and it is mainly on social media! I find myself looking at pages of people I know and even that I don’t and have the thought they are doing better than me and maybe I should be doing something different. DON’T.
Nothing is what is seems online and everyone has things going on that you may not see! It is very easy to push your problems onto other things and make yourself feel as if you are not as good as someone else, but they are probably thinking the exact same thing looking at someone else, or even YOU!
Everyone has things they don’t like or feel like they cannot do something, but comparing yourself to others is never going to help. Look at yourself and think what you could do to improve the way you feel, as everyone is different and you shouldn’t try to be something or someone you’re not.
- Try Not To Second Guess Yourself
Again, this is something very easy to say and much harder to do, but it can make a huge difference.
I am not saying that you will never second guess your choices because this is human nature! Also of course you will second guess sometimes as not all choices will be good ones but that happens to everyone, we all make mistakes.
What I mean is, stick with your decisions, if you think its right then go for it. Yes it may come back to bite you in the ass but you will have committed to something and imagine all the time you could save not worrying about what to do next. We all have responsibilities but try and take each day as it comes and the choices you make at that time.
I always worry about how my choices effect people, which isn’t a bad thing but when I start making decisions for others that’s when it goes down hill. Make choices for yourself and if you think its the right thing, then stick with it! Don’t change who you are just because you are worried that people won’t like you, if they accept you then they will stay by your side.
There are a few little tricks that are so simple but can sometimes really help if you are stuck in a rut!
Simplicity is key here, so these things may seem obvious but they can be really beneficially:
–Talk to people! It is so simple and can become really easy. I am one of those people who would much rather keep things to myself, as for some reason I don’t want to be seen as a drama queen or putting my problems on other people, but that is really not the case! I think a lot of people feel this way, but you need to remember that is what friends and family are for! I know if my friend or anyone was feeling like they needed to talk I would want them to come to me, so don’t be afraid and definitely don’t be embarrassed! I think it could surprise you how many people turn around and say they have felt the same way!
–Write things down. Now this may sound bizarre but it is a really good way to help with worries. I am the type of person to have the most outrageous worries and the more I think about them the worse my anxiety gets, even if they make absolutely no sense! I found that writing down the worries I had and actually seeing them physically in front of me, I was able to rationalize how silly some of them were. I made a list and read through them, and having the worries on paper made them less intense and I actually ended up laughing at some!
–Don’t be ashamed! This is so common for people to keep things to themselves and gets to a point where its a lot harder to do something about it. Luckily I have never gone that far, because I did something about it. I know it is so much easier said than done, and people are all different, but coming to terms with it makes it an easier thing to conquer. When you are able to except it and not be ashamed of the way you and so many people feel, you can begin to make a positive change. I know it is not as simple for some people, but as a starting point it could make an impact on your outlook.
The last thing and probably the post important! Is to surround yourself with things that make you happy!
Whether this be friends, family, food anything! The more your place your self in positive situations and surround your self you will begin to draw off this! For me it comes from being around friends and arranging things to do, I am able to bounce off them and enjoy living in the moment!
Hope this helps anyone who is feeling a little down! As I said everyone is different but I found these routes really help and got me feeling a little more like myself 🙂