Rogues Cafe! <3

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The new Rogues Cafe has opened in Southampton, next to the Guildhall! It is a fab location and so lush inside!

I went along to a lovely evening that the owners had set up with Southampton Bloggers to try their menu and experience the quirky and cool new restaurant.  Firstly I need to express how friendly and purely passionate the owners are about this fab new opening! It really makes a world of different to a place like this when the owners love what they are doing!

The interior was really cool and a real mix mash vibe, which I love in independent places.

It felt really cosy inside and it made us all feel very relaxed, and they have a dog! Now I am a huge dog person so for me this was a game changer! He was so friendly and extremely well behaved, but it gave the cafe a lovely family feel and became really personal!

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They are so reasonable priced with food, soft drinks and alcohol (and they have 2 for 1 on Fridays on ALL DRINKS!).

 

The food was amazing! One thing they pride themselves on is that all the food is locally sourced!

Everything they brought out was so thought out and simply delicious. It is a perfect place for a light brunch, lunch or dinner with such a varied menu to accommodate the customers.

The menu is even personal, let alone massive! They have made it so different and personal keeping all their notes and details from when they planned what they wanted.

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If I can recommend one place to head to this summer it is 100% Roges Cafe! a lovely place with incredible food and atmosphere, I cannot wait to head back.

 

Grace x

What feminism is to me…

This is my first post of this kind so I hope it’s alright! I want to put it the best way I can, so even though my writing may not be too great I hope to get what I mean across well 🙂

I never knew what feminism was, never thought about it and never really understood it. I think this goes for a lot of people, as there are so many different views and takes on feminism so it can all get a bit confusing! I think this is another reason I don’t want to be called a feminist because there are so many variations and connotations of the word! The thing is, I do believe I am one purely because of the way I view feminism. I just think being called a feminist can become a bit blurred because of everyone’s different takes on the subject. I’m not saying anyone’s view on this is wrong, this is just mine.

I first really began to understand what my thoughts on feminism were when I had to look into it for a university project…

I was placed into a group to create our own theatre company, we had to have an aim and an area of interest. Two of the girls suggest that we become a feminist theatre company as the dynamic of the group would make it very interesting (5 girls and 1 boy) therefore we could make some hard hitting thoughtful theatre. I am all for hard hitting theatre with a purpose but at the time I found the idea quite off putting. My first response, which now I find to be such an ignorant statement was “as long as it’s not all man hating”. If I heard someone say that now I would be the one rolling my eyes.


Luckily the girls I worked with understood where I was coming from because it is a view that so many people have on feminism, I mean I was one of them and it’s because I didn’t understand it. The pieces we began to work on were based about equality for men and women, yes men and women. We looked into subjects which effect both sexes and in some cases yes there is a big difference.

I can see why some people think feminism is all for women but it only seems this way because women are fighting for some notable equalities, such as pay and sexual assault. This doesn’t mean men do not suffer the same discrimination. Like I said for me feminism is equality for both sexes.

Now I’m not the type of person to shove this down peoples throats as it what I think not what others have too (I hope this isn’t too heavy a read). I just think that men and women should have equality, even things simple as a woman not being called a slut for wearing the clothing she likes, or a man being called a wimp for enjoying more so called ‘feminine’ things.

I just think people should be allowed to do what they want, live the way they want to with out so much judgement. Is that so much to want?

I can’t see equality as a bad thing, and I find it so bizarre that the word ‘feminist’ almost seems dirty to some people. Like I said there are many differny types of feminism and people have their own beliefs within it, but overall it does come back to equality in my eyes.

It’s not a bad thing to be a feminist and people shouldn’t feel bad to be one. I think it is a good thing to strive for and eventually I want there to be equality.

I find if quite funny sometimes when people ask me how I can be a feminist.

Now, I think this comes back down to people’s differny views and takes on feminism. I love make up and fashion and I enjoy making myself look and ultimately feel good. Some people see this as a weakness I suppose, because  as a woman I should be empowered and love the way I look…well I do, I mean we all have insecurities but I’m not ashamed of myself. The reason I wear make up and slightly change my appearance is because I enjoy it. I like buying make up and clothes and I do it for no one else but myself. This has nothing to do with me not being empowered in my own skin in actual fact I just simply want to do something I take enjoyment in.


I just think overal there should be mutual respect for men and women because we are all equal and that’s the way it should be. I remember I was criticised once for asking a man to open something for me. Now most of the time I really strive to be independent and ultimately I think I am or at least getting there, but in this case I just needed help from someone and it turned out to be a man. I think this is read into much to much sometimes, we can all help one another and be polite and it does not have to be sexist. I am a feminist but if a man opens a door for me he is being polite not misogynistic.

I hope I haven’t offended anyone,but I just wanted this to be a little insight to myself. I hope it was an enjoyable read and not too heavy!

Keep doing things that make you happy 🙂

Wonderland! 


Last night I was lucky enough to go with the Southampton bloggers to see Wonderland at The Mayflower Theatre! 

This new show has just come to Southampton and explores an older Alice, her daughter and her love interest neighbour falling into wonderland. Initially the story is set in modern day and Alice’s life seems to be going in all the wrong directions. She’s divorced, fired and feeling ultimately lost. 

I am familiar with the classic Disney story of Alice in Wonderland, but this was a new twist on the classic and it took me by surprise! 

Although the story differed from the one I knew it was a great experience and the new story kept me guessing. 

The set and the costumes were my two favourite things about this show, and definitely a reason alone to see this show! 

The stage was just alive with colour and the slickness of the set was really impressive! From the looking glass to the mad hatters tea table, everything was really thought through and brought the stage to life! 

The performers costumes were the perfect suggestion to the animals and a great modern day twist! My favourite had to be the Mad Hatter! Originally played by a man in the film but in this case was a woman, and it worked so well! She was in a big hat, peplum shirt and fab purple leggings! She was so sassy and her voice was just incredible! 

After touring in America, the show has come over to England and is the perfect show to see with the family! Especially over the Easter break! 

The Queen of Hearts (a classic character) was played by Cilla Battersby-Brown, who was a Coronation Street star! She was just fabulous! What a voice and the chatacteristics were spot on for the character. I love subtle traits for characters on stage as it makes each person up there an individual! The Queen of Hearts would have a jam tart every time she was on stage, and would announce herself eating it! It was really funny and a lovely little extra which really added to her character!

We had an excellent evening as always at the Mayflower in Southampton and if you are a big Alice fan I would certainly recommend! The show is in Southampton from 18th to the 22nd April so make sure you grab your tickets soon!!! 

Grace x

Don’t let things get in your way 

We all have our ups and downs, we all share the moments that make us feel as if we’re the only ones feeling this way. But you are not feeling it alone.

Everyone has baggage and everyone has those days where it feels a little heavier than it did before, it’s normal and there are ways to get passed it.

I understand that everyone has different things going on, and I am not the perfect spoke person but I have found that little things can help me through bad days.


I left university not too long ago and moving home and leaving some amazing people put me in a very weird place, as I think it does for a lot of people.

The situation made me feel things I hadn’t experienced before but I have little tricks that help bring me up. I hope this post can help others who are maybe feeling a little less than themselves lately.

  • Keep Yourself Busy 

I found that I was feeling my worst when I was just working and heading home. I would find myself in my room and end up feeling, to be quite honest like crap. I would sit upstairs watching Netflix, which not only isolated me but began to make me feel very tired and lethargic, which obviously lead me to not exactly liking the way I was.

I think it is the same for a lot of people, when your are alone it is an excuse to start thinking about things and start looking back with a shall we say, a less than positive outlook. I would think about university and look back at what I had, but rather than look back and remember, I was looking back and wishing I was there and not here. This is not the way to look at your memories, you should look back and smile.

I found that as soon as I began planning things, after work or even for the weekend meant I had things to look forward to and get me out of habit. I began to push myself to arrange things and ensure I was enjoying myself. For me, friends make me the happiest, therefore I took that knowledge and put it into practice. I arranged a plan to see my friends who are furthest away to meet in the summer and sort little plans with the friends who are close. I even took up some hobbies and have started helping other people out!

I love drama and I have started helping out some student with student films and modelling for photography and make up students. It’s really different, breaks up my day and I actually really enjoy it!

Find things you enjoy, whether its something as simple as watching TV with your family or heading out to dinner with friends, you’d be surprised the difference it makes!

  • Stop Comparing Yourself To Others! 

I know it is so much easier said than done, and I can say I am always doing this even when I know I shouldn’t!

It is so easy to start looking at other people and wonder why you are not doing as well and it is mainly on social media! I find myself looking at pages of people I know and even that I don’t and have the thought they are doing better than me and maybe I should be doing something different. DON’T.

Nothing is what is seems online and everyone has things going on that you may not see! It is very easy to push your problems onto other things and make yourself feel as if you are not as good as someone else, but they are probably thinking the exact same thing looking at someone else, or even YOU!

Everyone has things they don’t like or feel like they cannot do something, but comparing yourself to others is never going to help. Look at yourself and think what you could do to improve the way you feel, as everyone is different and you shouldn’t try to be something or someone you’re not.

  • Try Not To Second Guess Yourself 

Again, this is something very easy to say and much harder to do, but it can make a huge difference.

I am not saying that you will never second guess your choices because this is human nature! Also of course you will second guess sometimes as not all choices will be good ones but that happens to everyone, we all make mistakes.

What I mean is,  stick with your decisions, if you think its right then go for it. Yes it may come back to bite you in the ass but you will have committed to something and imagine all the time you could save not worrying about what to do next. We all have responsibilities but try and take each day as it comes and the choices you make at that time.

I always worry about how my choices effect people, which isn’t a bad thing but when I start making decisions for others that’s when it goes down hill. Make choices for yourself and if you think its the right thing, then stick with it! Don’t change who you are just because you are worried that people won’t like you, if  they accept you then they will stay by your side.

  • Try The Simple Things 

There are a few little tricks that are so simple but can sometimes really help if you are stuck in a rut!

Simplicity is key here, so these things may seem obvious but they can be really beneficially:

Talk to people! It is so simple and can become really easy. I am one of those people who would much rather keep things to myself, as for some reason I don’t want to be seen as a drama queen or putting my problems on other people, but that is really not the case! I think a lot of people feel this way, but you need to remember that is what friends and family are for! I know if my friend or anyone was feeling like they needed to talk I would want them to come to me, so don’t be afraid and definitely don’t be embarrassed! I think it could surprise you how many people turn around and say they have felt the same way!

Write things down. Now this may sound bizarre but it is a really good way to help with worries. I am the type of person to have the most outrageous worries and the more I think about them the worse my anxiety gets, even if they make absolutely no sense! I found that writing down the worries I had and actually seeing them physically in front of me, I was able to rationalize how silly some of them were. I made a list and read through them, and having the worries on paper made them less intense and I actually ended up laughing at some!

Don’t be ashamed! This is so common for people to keep things to themselves and gets to a point where its a lot harder to do something about it. Luckily I have never gone that far, because I did something about it. I know it is so much easier said than done, and people are all different, but coming to terms with it makes it an easier thing to conquer. When you are able to except it and not be ashamed of the way you and so many people feel, you can begin to make a positive change. I know it is not as simple for some people, but as a starting point it could make an impact on your outlook.

 

The last thing and probably the post important! Is to surround yourself with things that make you happy!

Whether this be friends, family, food anything! The more your place your self in positive situations and surround your self you will begin to draw off this! For me it comes from being around friends and arranging things to do, I am able to bounce off them and enjoy living in the moment!

 

Hope this helps anyone who is feeling a little down! As I said everyone is different but I found these routes really help and got me feeling a little more like myself 🙂

 

BeautyBrown x

International women’s day!!

As it was international women’s day yesterday I thought what a perfect opportunity it would be to write a blog post on the women that inspire me and how important it is for women to be the backbone of all women.

I am very lucky to have an amazing support group of women in my life, from my Mum to my best friends. It is so important for women today to have a strong support from other women, to empower one another!

Support in women and young girls is something that I am really passionate about and women who inspire one another are the ones I look up too and respect so much.

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This is one of my favourite quotes, as it is so true! We are brought up in a world where women are taught to see each other as competitors but that really should not be the case. Women should be taught to stand together, if we did imagine the things each other could do.

The women in my life have always supported one another, and been there through the up’s and down’s through one another’s lives.

Now I am not saying that I don’t fight, have disagreements even say things I wish I hadn’t, but the point is that overall we support each other as women, different opinions and all. I mean, I am still human and coming from a generation where everything seems like a competition (especially on social media) I have thought things or even said things about other girls that maybe I shouldn’t have, I think we all do. What I mean is women need to stop seeing other women as enemies and start seeing each other as equal allies.

I don’t want to shove ideas and thoughts onto others, but women have fort for a long time to have the things we do today even if we still have some way to go. But one thing I don’t think they fought for was women tearing each other down. Yes we get jealous and yes we make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean we cannot support one another.

This is where having the women in our lives becomes so important.

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You can achieve anything but think of what you could achieve with a strong support system propelling you forward. Women still face a lot of adversity, even now in 2017. I am not saying that we are the only ones with problems, I am a strong believer in equality for men and women, but from a woman’s point of view I can have an opinion on female support. That is the reason for this post.

We  all have people that we look up to and inspire us and for my that is my mum and my friends.

My mum has been an amazing female figure to look towards, she is positive, smart and so passionate about everything she does. As a woman she is the perfect example of someone who goes out of her way to support her daughters and female friends. She isn’t someone to criticise other women, but is a listening ear and a smile with advice when needed.  Yes she may not always get it right, but she empowers me to do what I want in life and lets nothing get in my way especially not my gender.

Female friends are some of the best friends that a girl can have through her life and create one of the strongest bonds throughout the years! My girlfriends inspire me everyday, with their own lives and the support the bring to mine. Yes, it is not all pillow fights and ice cream, but it is a helping hand and plenty of laughter, even if sometimes that laughter can become screams. Girls do fight and have disagreements of course but ultimately these arguments can bring you closer and create a genuine relationship that becomes something to cherish. Even if we don’t always agree with each others decisions and mistakes, we don’t bash each other down for them, we help that person grow from it.

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It is so important that women stand together and teach the younger generation of girls today that we are all each others sisters, mothers and best friends (no matter how cheesy that sounds). We should all see each other as queens and nothing less, no woman is better than another and if you think you are why aren’t you helping the other to better themselves? I love international women’s day, because we finally see how women should always be treating and supporting each other.

Stand together queens and make everyday International Women’s Day.

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Billy Elliot! @Mayflower Southampton 


Yay! Billy Elliot! Go Billy go! 

I have wanted to see this musical forever! As you know by now I am a massive musical geek, I just can’t get enough! I’ve been in them, gone to see them and now I’m writing about them!

Billy Elliot has been one of my must see’s for a long time and I finally had the chance to go with the Southampton Bloggers! 

 After seeing the film when I was younger I was so excited to see the way they expressed this on stage! (Which was spot on by the way) 


Omg omg omg is all I can say right now! I saw the show last night and I cannot get out of my head how amazing it was! 

This has got to be one of the best shows I have seen, for me it is now one of my favourites! I cannot stress how much you should see this show if  you can, it was incredible! 

Let’s start with the song and dance numbers…


The songs are still in my head! They were really fun and thy created this amazing atmosphere with the ensemble. 

As a lot of the cast were young I was so impressed with the way they could move and their pure talent on stage! From young to old on that stage last night was perfection! They way they created transitions on stage from scenes and songs was honestly beautiful! One of my favourite moment was the grandmas song about her husband. As she sung there was a group of male dancers that moved across the stage from one side to the other. The moments they created were stunning and created this real moment on the stage. Truly stunning. 


Now time for the real talent! This young lad who played Billy last night was breathtaking! The talent of this young lad was astonishing I honestly couldn’t believe it! It was only his third venue and I could not believe my eyes! Seriously watch out for this one as that is a talent that is going so many places! 

Not only was he adorable when we acted but the skill of his dancing was gorgeous! He really showed off his skills in a wonderful scene where him and his older self danced together, it gave my goose bumps and I 100% cried! ( as I did through  most of the show!) 

They danced together in such sync it really seemed like the same person! The skill and practice they had put into this beautiful scene was so beautiful! 

All I can say is I wish I was a ballet dancer and I’m 100% signing up my future kids for lessons! 

The thing about this show is that it really strikes a cord with the audience! I laughed and cried and didn’t want the how to end! If you ask me 3 hours was not long enough! The show rounded up with a standing ovation from the audience, which was the least they deserved! I just wish I had roses to throw! I will be thinking about this show for a long time! 

There was really something for everyone in this show! The crude nature and comedy was something I loved and they had the perfect amount! 

I cannot praise this show enough! The cast and crew should be immensely proud as they created somethin truly magical I cannot wait to watch again! 

Go and see this if you can! I had such an amazing time thank you so much to the Mayflower Southampton! 

What’s the all hype?! Hismile teeth whitening 

So the Instagram sensation hismile is what everyone is talking about so I thought I would give it ago! 


So the package came and I must say my first impressions were very good! The box was presented lovely and everything was so neat and ready to use! 


It came with a clear instiction booklet that explained really well everything that you needed to do for your home whitening. 

When opening the box I looked straight at the booklet just to see if it really was as easy as everyone has been saying and this is what it looked like…


Literally a step by step guide with pictures, which is super helpful as I’m defiantly a picture person! Not only did it tell you how to use the product but at the bottom it gives you tips for the best results. 

I don’t know why but from seeing pictures and video I thought the mouth guard you placed in your mouth was a hard plastic, but it isn’t its actually a soft silicone. This made it so much easier to have in my mouth and a lot more comfy! 

So I attached the mouth guard to the LED lamp,applied a quarter of the syringe to the top and bottom sections and popped it in my mouth. 

I had a little wiggly around to make sure the gel was all on my teeth, bit down  (as one of the tips suggested) and turned on the light. The one thing I loved about the light is is times ten minutes for you at automatically turns itself off! This meant I could get some other stuff done, like tidying my room or finishing my makeup off. 


It made everything so easy and I could really tell a difference even after the first use! It says to use it consecutively for the best results and I’ve only used one gel so far and I think it’s working really well! 

It suggested staying away from staining foods and drinks straight before and after use just to make it take a little better. 

The only small issue I had was that my jaw did ache a little bit I was clamping down the whole time, which I’m sure you don’t have to do! 

My overall option after a few goes, is that the product is really making a difference. I don’t know how long this will last as I am still using it but at the moment I am a very happy bunny 🙂