Goals and Wants for 2019, A reflection…

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So I have made myself a list of goals and wants for 2019. I know a lot of people do this, and a lot of people never even get round to doing half of them, the ‘new year, new me’ crap doesn’t really work. I think this year, I am not going to become the ‘new me’ but improve the person I already am.

2018 really did fly past and too be honest, although I had a great year, I don’t feel as if I achieved anything in particular. The biggest thing for me last year was going to America on my own, for a solo tour and that is the one experience that has made me want to focus on myself this year. I am definitely one of those people who massively over think things, and this can lead to me sometimes over looking what I want out of something, as I am more concerned with the people around me. This year I have made the decision to be selfish. Selfish in the sense that I want to spend the year with a smile on my face, and to do that I need to do the things I want to do. What are the things that could make me happy, and make me look back on this year the way I do when thinking about America and the way I felt when I came back. Doing the solo tour really pushed me out of my comfort zone and because I was alone, all my decisions were for myself and no one else. What a great feeling! I’m not saying I am about to disregard everyone and their feelings around me, I’m saying this year is about self love and self care. We all need more of it.

I am feeling really positive when looking to this year, which is more than I can say for 2018. I remember after new year last year, I was feeling anxious and unsure (I’m not saying I don’t feel that way at all) but this year I am going into it with more of a good outlook. I am not saying I have it all together, and I do not think I am suddenly going to find myself in 2019- I am still a little lost bunny with what I want to do with my life- but I am going into it with myself at the forefront of my mind. I do not need to please anyone, I do not need to know what I want to do with my life, I want to make this year, a year of memories. (That was disgustingly cheesy, I know and I don’t care).

I have a few things on my list as I gradually build it up but I wanted to share the couple of things I have that reflect on the ‘self love’ idea for the year:

  • Read more
  • Keep fitness and health good
  • Learn a new skill (hoping keyboard)
  • Do something that scares you
  • Watch less TV/ Netflix!
  • Less Social media

The last two are things to help me become more attentive to whats around me and stop feeling like I always have to have a screen on or something in the background. I don’t know about you, but I find myself always with Netflix on in the background, or put it on to fall asleep. I do this alongside looking at my phone, for what feels like every 10 minutes. I want to remove this from my routine/ life and fully immerse myself in the things I am doing, even if that is just getting ready in the morning or cooking dinner. I want to make sure I am fully in the moment, no matter what I am doing.

Now I know these may seem cheesy, generic or ridiculous to some, but I want to give them a go. I really want to focus this year and complete the things I set my mind too.

There are other things I have set for myself too, like travelling, activities and places I want to visit. Things that are simple, like seeing friends and make time for family, as all these thing effect your mood and these are the things I know make me happy.

Wish me luck! And I hope whatever goals, wants or challenges you set yourself this year, you stick to it and get what you want from them!

Grace

xx

Go!Southampton: Seaside in the square

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chairYesterday the Southampton Bloggers and I headed down to Go Southampton’s Seaside in the square for a cocktail masterclass at the Orange Rooms stand.

I had heard the buzz about the event for a little while now but didn’t really know what to expect. I was so surprised, rocking up to Guildhall square to see a full on beach! In my mind I had something quite small, maybe a few stalls and a bit of sand but what they had done was so impressive!!

It was like stepping out of Southampton and into a fabulous beach club in Spain! Lucky for us the sun was shining and this made it even more amazing. The whole floor was sand, with deck chairs, blow ups and a massive stage playing some great tunes and a saxophone player! The event team welcomed us and told us to have a little look and play around to explore the great scene they had set up. The amount of effort that had gone into this event could been seen everywhere, ever tiny detail they had thought of.

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After having a nose around and getting some pictures we were invited over to the Orange Rooms stand to have a go at making some cocktails! We made some Round The World Mojito’s which is an Orange Rooms special, with a passion fruit twist (which is my absolute favorite). We had one staff member invite us up two at a time to have a go at making these tasty treats, and I must say they turned out pretty damn good!

We got a chance to do the whole cocktail ourselves, obviously with supervision and they were so yummy! We all had a go, until we had a chance to chill to the music, each some nibbles provided by the wonderful Mettircks and get some more pictures.

The seaside in the square is staying around until the 25th August with loads of FREE events! They have things like beach volleyball and beach yoga! They have so many things coming up so make sure to get yourself down there, you won’t regret it!

Grace xx

Astonishing- P&O Cruises

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I had the opportunity to preview the new P&O Cruise show Astonishing, produced by Stephen Mulhern and Jonathan Wilkes.

I went along with the fabulous Southampton bloggers to spend the morning, experiencing the vibe of the ship and watching the show!

Firstly, I have never been on a cruise ship in my life! The closet thing I’ve ever been on is the ferry to the Isle of Wight! I was so excited to just step foot on the boat and see what all the fuss was about with these kind of holidays, like what could a ship really offer?!

We arrived outside the terminal to a read carpet with photographers and camera crews all about. We saw Stephen outside having photos and interviews and I’m not going to lie, I was star struck, I love that guy! When receiving the invite I wasn’t sure how much involvement he would have, or if he would even be there but I was so excited to see him! We continued to walk through and go through customs to enter the ship. It may sound silly, but I didn’t realise they even had customs, but it was just like in an airport. It makes sense now I think about it, you are still travelling just like on a plane so all the same precautions are in place.

We stepped onto the boat and my first reaction was ‘wow!’ It was incredible! The ship was stunning and everything was beautiful, it was like being in a massive grand hotel, you would never even know you were on a boat.

We were led through to a waiting/ holding room where we were treated to nibbles and champagne. The staff were so attentive, constantly walking around offering the bites and ensuring we always had a full glass, I could not fault them. We were then led through to the theatre room, and my jaw dropped. The size of the theatre was just amazing, it was like any London theatre I had been in and at this point I was getting really excited about seeing the show. We were all sat down and some famous faces walked through, showing their support, like Dec! Dec from Ant and Dec entered the room!! I lost my head, I was so excited I just waved over as if I knew him….Just saying I got a wave back 😉

Watching the show as 100% my highlight. It was so slick and well put together, I absolutely loved it. The show not only contained magic and illusion but it was a whole ensemble of dance numbers and singing, it flowed so well. I love a bit of cheese, but this is the perfect family show which is perfect for a cruise holiday.

After the show, Stephen and Johnathan came onto stage and chatted about the support and the process to create the show. There was a lot of thanks and a lot of information, which was brilliant as you could really see the passion and hard work that was put into this show.

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Following the performance we were led to another part of the ship (if we weren’t shown around, I would have got lost the ship is so big!) for afternoon tea and cakes.

The spread was lovey, loads of cakes and the staff were walking around with sandwiches, pies and other savory treats. I could not fault the staff on the cruise line, they have such pride in their work to ensure the passengers have an amazing time and are constantly catered for. The entire morning was just so lovely, smooth and brillaintly organised I didn’t want to leave, I wanted it to set off and do a mini cruise!

I had never considered this kind of holiday as I thought cruise ships just weren’t for me, but this even has completely changed my view! The whole experience, on top of the excellent show has go me excited to look into the trips P&K offer. I could not recommend it more, if my morning was this fab just think of a holiday with them!

Grace xx

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Supermarine

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A few weeks ago I went along to Supermarine in Woolston with the Southampton bloggers. We had an evening of pizza making, wine and laughter and it was a really great evening!

They were fabulous hosts for us and we go to try so much of the menu, which I was so excited about as there was so much I hadn’t had before.

We all had a great start to the evening sitting around, chatting and experiencing the great atmosphere that is created in this restaurant.

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Not only were they nice enough to let us taste all this incredible food but they let us have a go at making our own pizzas in their massive pizza oven!

The kitchen is all open in the restaurant so you can see your food being prepared and made and they let us have a close up look and try our hand at making a traditional pizza from their menu

I have to say I was not the best at making pizza but I gave it a real go and you cannot fault how helpful and fun the chef’s were. They were nice enough to help all the girls who wanted to have a go, made a different pizza for each of us and were so patient with those us who weren’t that natural! (me!)

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I had such a fabulous evening and I cannot wait to go back and try that menu all over again! I have already been talking to all my friends and I cannot recommend this place enough.

Get down there!

x Grace x

Tanstic Tesco!

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I always forget what little hidden gems that Tesco comes up with in their clothing range! I popped in the other night and decided to have a look upstairs at their autumn range at F&F.

Well I can safely say they did not disappoint…

I basically fell in love with these three jackets!

They are so on trend, lush colors, and so affordable! I really think that Tesco is an underdog when it come to fashion, it has got so modern in the last few years and I can’t wait to go back and get some of their autumn pieces.

I am especially a fan of the denim jacket, it is right up my street and I feel the fur collar makes  it a more unique piece while still being up to date.

This was just a little post, but I would highly recommend having a look in your local Tesco as I think its a great place for a cheeky bargain!

Grace

xx

Vospers, Woolston

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Last night I got to go along to the new Vospers in Woolston, as part of the new Watermark with the Southampton Bloggers.

They invited us to have a cocktail master class and try some of there fabulous burgers! I can safely say my eyes were bigger than my belly!

 

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The evening was filled with laughter and good food!

When we got to Vospers we were greeted with smiling faces and there was a great atmosphere already in the restaurant. There was a lovely big table set up for us with a bar at the end where we could go up and have a crack at making some cocktails from their menu, starting with ‘The last word’.

They were excellent in getting us up and involved to show us everything we needed to know about the drinks, and they were really tasty…and strong!

Now onto the main event…the food! The burgers were really quick to come out, especially with there being such a big group of us and they had a birthday party in, so I was really impressed. One big shout out goes to the sweet potato fries! Now I am a big fan of sweet potato and I can confirm these were some of the best I’ve has in while! I was really impressed with the food and the service on the evening.

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One thing I really liked was the decor and the feel of the entire restaurant. It was so cosy and filled with bits and pieces that made the whole place feel unique and personal. They had pictures all around of the people that worked in the old Vospers factory which really added to the atmosphere.

The bar and kitchen was all open so you could see the food and drink being prepared, which I love as you can see what is happening with your order. The design of the whole place has been really thought out and ties together really well.

I already can’t wait to go back! I would highly recommend Vospers if you are after a lush burger and a stiff cocktail!

Grace x

 

Rogues Cafe! <3

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The new Rogues Cafe has opened in Southampton, next to the Guildhall! It is a fab location and so lush inside!

I went along to a lovely evening that the owners had set up with Southampton Bloggers to try their menu and experience the quirky and cool new restaurant.  Firstly I need to express how friendly and purely passionate the owners are about this fab new opening! It really makes a world of different to a place like this when the owners love what they are doing!

The interior was really cool and a real mix mash vibe, which I love in independent places.

It felt really cosy inside and it made us all feel very relaxed, and they have a dog! Now I am a huge dog person so for me this was a game changer! He was so friendly and extremely well behaved, but it gave the cafe a lovely family feel and became really personal!

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They are so reasonable priced with food, soft drinks and alcohol (and they have 2 for 1 on Fridays on ALL DRINKS!).

 

The food was amazing! One thing they pride themselves on is that all the food is locally sourced!

Everything they brought out was so thought out and simply delicious. It is a perfect place for a light brunch, lunch or dinner with such a varied menu to accommodate the customers.

The menu is even personal, let alone massive! They have made it so different and personal keeping all their notes and details from when they planned what they wanted.

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If I can recommend one place to head to this summer it is 100% Roges Cafe! a lovely place with incredible food and atmosphere, I cannot wait to head back.

 

Grace x

What feminism is to me…

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This is my first post of this kind so I hope it’s alright! I want to put it the best way I can, so even though my writing may not be too great I hope to get what I mean across well 🙂

I never knew what feminism was, never thought about it and never really understood it. I think this goes for a lot of people, as there are so many different views and takes on feminism so it can all get a bit confusing! I think this is another reason I don’t want to be called a feminist because there are so many variations and connotations of the word! The thing is, I do believe I am one purely because of the way I view feminism. I just think being called a feminist can become a bit blurred because of everyone’s different takes on the subject. I’m not saying anyone’s view on this is wrong, this is just mine.

I first really began to understand what my thoughts on feminism were when I had to look into it for a university project…

I was placed into a group to create our own theatre company, we had to have an aim and an area of interest. Two of the girls suggest that we become a feminist theatre company as the dynamic of the group would make it very interesting (5 girls and 1 boy) therefore we could make some hard hitting thoughtful theatre. I am all for hard hitting theatre with a purpose but at the time I found the idea quite off putting. My first response, which now I find to be such an ignorant statement was “as long as it’s not all man hating”. If I heard someone say that now I would be the one rolling my eyes.


Luckily the girls I worked with understood where I was coming from because it is a view that so many people have on feminism, I mean I was one of them and it’s because I didn’t understand it. The pieces we began to work on were based about equality for men and women, yes men and women. We looked into subjects which effect both sexes and in some cases yes there is a big difference.

I can see why some people think feminism is all for women but it only seems this way because women are fighting for some notable equalities, such as pay and sexual assault. This doesn’t mean men do not suffer the same discrimination. Like I said for me feminism is equality for both sexes.

Now I’m not the type of person to shove this down peoples throats as it what I think not what others have too (I hope this isn’t too heavy a read). I just think that men and women should have equality, even things simple as a woman not being called a slut for wearing the clothing she likes, or a man being called a wimp for enjoying more so called ‘feminine’ things.

I just think people should be allowed to do what they want, live the way they want to with out so much judgement. Is that so much to want?

I can’t see equality as a bad thing, and I find it so bizarre that the word ‘feminist’ almost seems dirty to some people. Like I said there are many differny types of feminism and people have their own beliefs within it, but overall it does come back to equality in my eyes.

It’s not a bad thing to be a feminist and people shouldn’t feel bad to be one. I think it is a good thing to strive for and eventually I want there to be equality.

I find if quite funny sometimes when people ask me how I can be a feminist.

Now, I think this comes back down to people’s differny views and takes on feminism. I love make up and fashion and I enjoy making myself look and ultimately feel good. Some people see this as a weakness I suppose, because  as a woman I should be empowered and love the way I look…well I do, I mean we all have insecurities but I’m not ashamed of myself. The reason I wear make up and slightly change my appearance is because I enjoy it. I like buying make up and clothes and I do it for no one else but myself. This has nothing to do with me not being empowered in my own skin in actual fact I just simply want to do something I take enjoyment in.


I just think overal there should be mutual respect for men and women because we are all equal and that’s the way it should be. I remember I was criticised once for asking a man to open something for me. Now most of the time I really strive to be independent and ultimately I think I am or at least getting there, but in this case I just needed help from someone and it turned out to be a man. I think this is read into much to much sometimes, we can all help one another and be polite and it does not have to be sexist. I am a feminist but if a man opens a door for me he is being polite not misogynistic.

I hope I haven’t offended anyone,but I just wanted this to be a little insight to myself. I hope it was an enjoyable read and not too heavy!

Keep doing things that make you happy 🙂

Don’t let things get in your way 

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We all have our ups and downs, we all share the moments that make us feel as if we’re the only ones feeling this way. But you are not feeling it alone.

Everyone has baggage and everyone has those days where it feels a little heavier than it did before, it’s normal and there are ways to get passed it.

I understand that everyone has different things going on, and I am not the perfect spoke person but I have found that little things can help me through bad days.


I left university not too long ago and moving home and leaving some amazing people put me in a very weird place, as I think it does for a lot of people.

The situation made me feel things I hadn’t experienced before but I have little tricks that help bring me up. I hope this post can help others who are maybe feeling a little less than themselves lately.

  • Keep Yourself Busy 

I found that I was feeling my worst when I was just working and heading home. I would find myself in my room and end up feeling, to be quite honest like crap. I would sit upstairs watching Netflix, which not only isolated me but began to make me feel very tired and lethargic, which obviously lead me to not exactly liking the way I was.

I think it is the same for a lot of people, when your are alone it is an excuse to start thinking about things and start looking back with a shall we say, a less than positive outlook. I would think about university and look back at what I had, but rather than look back and remember, I was looking back and wishing I was there and not here. This is not the way to look at your memories, you should look back and smile.

I found that as soon as I began planning things, after work or even for the weekend meant I had things to look forward to and get me out of habit. I began to push myself to arrange things and ensure I was enjoying myself. For me, friends make me the happiest, therefore I took that knowledge and put it into practice. I arranged a plan to see my friends who are furthest away to meet in the summer and sort little plans with the friends who are close. I even took up some hobbies and have started helping other people out!

I love drama and I have started helping out some student with student films and modelling for photography and make up students. It’s really different, breaks up my day and I actually really enjoy it!

Find things you enjoy, whether its something as simple as watching TV with your family or heading out to dinner with friends, you’d be surprised the difference it makes!

  • Stop Comparing Yourself To Others! 

I know it is so much easier said than done, and I can say I am always doing this even when I know I shouldn’t!

It is so easy to start looking at other people and wonder why you are not doing as well and it is mainly on social media! I find myself looking at pages of people I know and even that I don’t and have the thought they are doing better than me and maybe I should be doing something different. DON’T.

Nothing is what is seems online and everyone has things going on that you may not see! It is very easy to push your problems onto other things and make yourself feel as if you are not as good as someone else, but they are probably thinking the exact same thing looking at someone else, or even YOU!

Everyone has things they don’t like or feel like they cannot do something, but comparing yourself to others is never going to help. Look at yourself and think what you could do to improve the way you feel, as everyone is different and you shouldn’t try to be something or someone you’re not.

  • Try Not To Second Guess Yourself 

Again, this is something very easy to say and much harder to do, but it can make a huge difference.

I am not saying that you will never second guess your choices because this is human nature! Also of course you will second guess sometimes as not all choices will be good ones but that happens to everyone, we all make mistakes.

What I mean is,  stick with your decisions, if you think its right then go for it. Yes it may come back to bite you in the ass but you will have committed to something and imagine all the time you could save not worrying about what to do next. We all have responsibilities but try and take each day as it comes and the choices you make at that time.

I always worry about how my choices effect people, which isn’t a bad thing but when I start making decisions for others that’s when it goes down hill. Make choices for yourself and if you think its the right thing, then stick with it! Don’t change who you are just because you are worried that people won’t like you, if  they accept you then they will stay by your side.

  • Try The Simple Things 

There are a few little tricks that are so simple but can sometimes really help if you are stuck in a rut!

Simplicity is key here, so these things may seem obvious but they can be really beneficially:

Talk to people! It is so simple and can become really easy. I am one of those people who would much rather keep things to myself, as for some reason I don’t want to be seen as a drama queen or putting my problems on other people, but that is really not the case! I think a lot of people feel this way, but you need to remember that is what friends and family are for! I know if my friend or anyone was feeling like they needed to talk I would want them to come to me, so don’t be afraid and definitely don’t be embarrassed! I think it could surprise you how many people turn around and say they have felt the same way!

Write things down. Now this may sound bizarre but it is a really good way to help with worries. I am the type of person to have the most outrageous worries and the more I think about them the worse my anxiety gets, even if they make absolutely no sense! I found that writing down the worries I had and actually seeing them physically in front of me, I was able to rationalize how silly some of them were. I made a list and read through them, and having the worries on paper made them less intense and I actually ended up laughing at some!

Don’t be ashamed! This is so common for people to keep things to themselves and gets to a point where its a lot harder to do something about it. Luckily I have never gone that far, because I did something about it. I know it is so much easier said than done, and people are all different, but coming to terms with it makes it an easier thing to conquer. When you are able to except it and not be ashamed of the way you and so many people feel, you can begin to make a positive change. I know it is not as simple for some people, but as a starting point it could make an impact on your outlook.

 

The last thing and probably the post important! Is to surround yourself with things that make you happy!

Whether this be friends, family, food anything! The more your place your self in positive situations and surround your self you will begin to draw off this! For me it comes from being around friends and arranging things to do, I am able to bounce off them and enjoy living in the moment!

 

Hope this helps anyone who is feeling a little down! As I said everyone is different but I found these routes really help and got me feeling a little more like myself 🙂

 

BeautyBrown x

International women’s day!!

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As it was international women’s day yesterday I thought what a perfect opportunity it would be to write a blog post on the women that inspire me and how important it is for women to be the backbone of all women.

I am very lucky to have an amazing support group of women in my life, from my Mum to my best friends. It is so important for women today to have a strong support from other women, to empower one another!

Support in women and young girls is something that I am really passionate about and women who inspire one another are the ones I look up too and respect so much.

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This is one of my favourite quotes, as it is so true! We are brought up in a world where women are taught to see each other as competitors but that really should not be the case. Women should be taught to stand together, if we did imagine the things each other could do.

The women in my life have always supported one another, and been there through the up’s and down’s through one another’s lives.

Now I am not saying that I don’t fight, have disagreements even say things I wish I hadn’t, but the point is that overall we support each other as women, different opinions and all. I mean, I am still human and coming from a generation where everything seems like a competition (especially on social media) I have thought things or even said things about other girls that maybe I shouldn’t have, I think we all do. What I mean is women need to stop seeing other women as enemies and start seeing each other as equal allies.

I don’t want to shove ideas and thoughts onto others, but women have fort for a long time to have the things we do today even if we still have some way to go. But one thing I don’t think they fought for was women tearing each other down. Yes we get jealous and yes we make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean we cannot support one another.

This is where having the women in our lives becomes so important.

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You can achieve anything but think of what you could achieve with a strong support system propelling you forward. Women still face a lot of adversity, even now in 2017. I am not saying that we are the only ones with problems, I am a strong believer in equality for men and women, but from a woman’s point of view I can have an opinion on female support. That is the reason for this post.

We  all have people that we look up to and inspire us and for my that is my mum and my friends.

My mum has been an amazing female figure to look towards, she is positive, smart and so passionate about everything she does. As a woman she is the perfect example of someone who goes out of her way to support her daughters and female friends. She isn’t someone to criticise other women, but is a listening ear and a smile with advice when needed.  Yes she may not always get it right, but she empowers me to do what I want in life and lets nothing get in my way especially not my gender.

Female friends are some of the best friends that a girl can have through her life and create one of the strongest bonds throughout the years! My girlfriends inspire me everyday, with their own lives and the support the bring to mine. Yes, it is not all pillow fights and ice cream, but it is a helping hand and plenty of laughter, even if sometimes that laughter can become screams. Girls do fight and have disagreements of course but ultimately these arguments can bring you closer and create a genuine relationship that becomes something to cherish. Even if we don’t always agree with each others decisions and mistakes, we don’t bash each other down for them, we help that person grow from it.

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It is so important that women stand together and teach the younger generation of girls today that we are all each others sisters, mothers and best friends (no matter how cheesy that sounds). We should all see each other as queens and nothing less, no woman is better than another and if you think you are why aren’t you helping the other to better themselves? I love international women’s day, because we finally see how women should always be treating and supporting each other.

Stand together queens and make everyday International Women’s Day.

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